Bad experiences suck. They can be painful, embarrassing, and even traumatic. They also can't be ignored. You must feel them and sit with them, reckoning both what happened to you and what you caused to happen.
After a while though, you have to move on with or without the apologies, closure, or justice you think you deserve. You can't just forget it like it never happened. You have to learn from it and let it shape you into a better person while leaving behind the pain and anger that comes with it.
I have seen so many people get stuck in the past, unable to move on from the bad things that have happened to them. Eventually that hurt becomes a defining characteristic of who they are.
Just the other day I saw someone post about how an ex-employer made them come to work when it was snowing, complaining how ridiculous that is. This person hasn't worked there for years, but they are still holding on to that resentment. I see people trash a university they attended years ago because they didn't like the way they were treated. Others rehash old grievances with family every time they come home for the holidays.
And for what purpose? That's the question I always ask when I see others bring up times where they felt wronged over events that have happened years ago.
I am often skeptical of any story from one perspective, but let's suspend disbelief for the sake of the point. Someone could have been wronged in the most egregious way possible. But, if they are still holding on to that pain years later, they are letting that event define them. They are letting that event and the people involved control their life.
Again I ask for what point? How can it possibly serve you?
The funny thing is that it is very easy to both see how silly that is and to fall into that trap yourself. And at the root of it is the same thing for each person, pride. We often think that we are above whatever happend to us. We must prove to our perpetrators that we didn't deserve what they did to us, or we must prove that they were wrong, stupid, and bad for doing it.
But let me tell you something, none of us are not above it. No one is above being wronged or hurt, and it will keep happening to you. To take a page out of Jocko Willink's book, the only thing we can say when we are wronged is, "Good." Then we learn from it, make our adjustments, and move on.